Does that title sound familiar? If you guessed Christian Mingle you are correct, my friend!
For those of you who don’t know what Christian Mingle is, let me fill you in in three words– christian online dating.
“Keilah, is this an #ad?”
No, it’s not. I wouldn’t say that dating site is for the faint of heart. I’m going to share with y’all how my sweet husband and I got our start!
Early 2013 I took a shoe box and began to write on notecards prayers for my future husband. When I moved out for summer from the dorm, the Tulsa wind blew the lid off that shoe box causing me to lose many of those notecards. The only prayer I remember writing was that if whoever he is was in a relationship that the Lord would cause it to end and soon because I was ready to meet him.
Christmas break 2013 my mom and I were sitting on the couch watching Hallmark movies and knitting. Yes, knitting. A commercial came on for Christian Mingle. We both laughed and my mom jokingly said “KK, you should sign up!” That night I set up an account and started browsing. Came across quit a few losers. Also, some not-so-christian guys. I had the account for maybe a week until I was ready to just cancel it.
*Enter my future luvuh*
He sent me the initial smiley face. There were three people in his profile pic and not one of them attractive. I smiled back just to be nice. He messaged me and out of the masses of gross men, he was the first to be genuinely interested in who I was. He didn’t ask for money, he didn’t ask me to come over to his house when his mom was going to be out, he also didn’t tell me I was supposed to mother his children (yeah, these are all things I heard).
After a couple of hours of chatting he asked to meet me at the Starbucks in Southlake Town Center. I lied and said I had family in town for the holiday.
WAS HE SERIOUS?! WHAT A PSYCHO
We became friends on Facebook and we messaged for the rest of Christmas break on messenger. I went back to school in Tulsa, OK and he continued to talk to me. I was weirdly starting to crush on him. But I could NEVER tell any of my friends for fear of being judged! We ended up exchanging numbers and agreeing to have a Skype call to make sure we weren’t being catfished by the other.
That first Skye call was 4 hours long. 4 HOURS. I did most of the talking, obviously, because I was nervous as hell. Also, he was FREAKING CUTE.
We continued to Skype and text for 3 months. All without my parents even knowing (LOL because I always told my parents everything). We agreed to finally meet in person, face to face when I came home for spring break. That week I was coming home was when I told my parents that I was meeting a guy from Christian Mingle at starbucks.
*Cue mom freaking out and dad acting remarkably calm*
Their demands were that he meet them the day after meeting me–which was also the day before he was taking me on our first official date. He agreed.
I walked into Starbucks, heart racing, so incredibly nervous, seriously considered just driving away. But oh, I would’ve missed out on the greatness that is Jonathan Austin Knowles.
He stood as I walked in. That’s when I knew. Not kidding. Want to know how I knew? He was so tall I had to look up. 6’4, ladies and gents. Also, blonde hair, blue eyes. *Swoon*
He hugged me, not even a side hug y’all. Breakin all the Christian dating rules! We sat and talked for a couple of hours. The only thing I remember was the sweat accumulating under my eyes. I didn’t know I could sweat there. #TheMoreYouKnow
Remember when I said my dad acted very cool, calm and collected? Well, he was circling the freaking Starbucks the whole time.
Next day he graciously met up with me and my parents (and Caleb) at Chuy’s. Super awkward lunch. But when we finally all said goodbye for the day, my parents gushed about how much they liked him!
Jon had planned out our first date: Dinner at BJ’s and a MAVS game. Y’all I spent the day googling “How to eat pasta in front of your crush” while shoving fistfuls of hot cheetos down my throat.
He showed up at the front door with two bouquets of flowers. One for me and one for my mom! Can you say swoon?
At the game, we sat awkwardly with our hands in our laps, keeping a safe space between us. Until I asked for a selfie. He put his arm around me and once the photoshoot was done, HE KEPT HIS ARM THERE. I could’ve thrown up the two pieces of pasta I ate for dinner. The butterflies were out of this world.
Later that week we went to the Fort Worth Water Gardens and walked around the Stockyards. On March 20th, he asked me to be his girlfriend. My first boyfriend. My last boyfriend.
10 months later Jonathan took me to Bass Hall to see Beauty and the Beast. Afterwards we walked around Sundance Square where he popped the question. I shouted at the security guards “HE JUST PROPOSED TO ME!”
Of all the ways I imagined meeting my future husband, online was not even an option in my mind. Be open to the plan the Lord has for you. Trust Him. Trust that He is still holding the pen that writes your story. Don’t think you have it all figured out…because chances are you don’t. And that’s actually really okay.
Oh yeah, remember that shoe box of prayers I mentioned that flew away? That one prayer I remember praying? Jon had a relationship that ended around the time that I wrote that prayer down. Boom.